On the wake of this New Year, I start this article with a very meaningful words of – Frederick Keonig, he said “We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
To understand this let first understand What is happiness?
Happiness is an emotion, or more than just emotion, it's a state of mind when we feel Joyous, elated, contented, exhilarated and also feel that life is good. Happiness is also known as Subjective Wellbeing why because to each person the definition of happiness is different. For eg, a same thing may not give same level of happiness in two different individuals. Eg Some find happiness in earning a lot of wealth, but other may find it in donating money to poor.
Why is there an Urge to be happy?
Sometimes we see ourselves constantly in search for happiness. We strive hard to bring happiness into our lives. So does it mean that we are not happy always ? Yes our natural state is not being happy so we always desire to be happy. And its happiness comes only fulfilment of conditions. which could bewants,wishes, expectations, demands.
What makes us Happy?
Now what makes us happy is the most difficult question with innumerable answers to it. Now happiness is the end goal, but the road we take to achieve this goal is different.
Where Does this happiness lie?
There is a lot said and discussed about where does happiness come from. Does happiness come from our within or does it come from life events, way life treats us. I would give this a 60;40, i feel that majority of it lies in the core of our mind, way we see life, if we wear a glass that shaded is, our view is filtered and world would appear in the colour of the glasses we wear. We always keep searching for this happiness outside in people, things, goals, etc. Majority of this happiness lies deep within, there are many layers of other emotions overlapping happiness, That makes it difficult to tap happiness from within.
What are the aspects/ Factors on which our state of being happy is depended upon?
Let's discuss some of the common ways and factors that make us happy. The factors could be internal or external. Internal factors are the factors on which we have a control and external our life events and our environment.
What are the External Aspects of being happy?
Man always views himself as a victim or as a beneficiary of the external events that happen in his life.
Social Validation - How does it become so vital for our existence?
The biggest evidence of the social validation lies in the following real life examples:
What are then the internal Aspects of being happy?
Why is there a natural tendency not to be happy?
Today we much more sophisticated and advanced and also have all the comforts in life, but researches show that we are way less happier than we were two decades before. Small things that used to make us happy earlier doesn't seem to have effect now. We have become like " these trivial things don't impress me" or " I don't get pleased so easily " But why?
We also have rigid belief systems, some of them are dysfunctional but still we hold on to them. earlier they were wishes now they are demands.
WISHES-WANTS-EXPECTATIONS-DEMANDS. When things are wishes it is easier, it may come true or not. But then when are transformed to demands there is an unsaid protocol from our mind that it should be met. If not then ?? It leaves us broken and upset.
How can we bring in happiness?
Since there is very high positive correlation between mental health and happiness, this itself is enough to explain the importance of happiness.
Jan. 10, 2022, 2:46 a.m.